Anger: "is it because of me?"

One topic in the Christian world/regular world today is anger, and how it can affect relationships. The physical effects of anger can be astonishing. However, the mental effects are even worse.

Anger is a natural feeling for a person when their emotions get past stress point. In other words, their emotions take control of their mind, because of a negative event that has occurred.

Being mad at someone, or at something is a sign of anger. You may have increased heartbeat, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline/noradrenaline.

Anger has two perspectives. One is active/direct, and the other is passive/indirect.

Difference? Active anger is when someone may see the external qualities of the anger you possess. Passive anger is when no one can tell you are angry about something. Some may erroneously call passive anger, aloof. However, aloof is more about successfully dealing with a situation, without expressing emotion.

Reminds me back to the song, So Long Self by MercyMe.

Anyway, the focus here is, is that being angry is a sign that you need to vent. But, how to do it in a safe way is the challenge. So, here are a few tips, to help you sort those issues.

1. Do not talk to anyone in the state of active anger. Doing so, will cause the anger to speak for you, which is not a good thing. Wait until the anger is passive, then talk to someone about it.

2. When anger is under control, it is considered passive. So, talk to someone else about the situation, if you are mad at a certain someone. Talking to the person you are mad at, even while passive anger is apparent, may re-boil the anger in to an active state. Always have a friend who can be on call at any time, to be able to vent.

3. Get in control of the situation and come up with a solution as soon as possible. No need to let yourself fall off the brink of a chasm. Wake up and find a solution.

4. Get more rest. The more rest you get, the easier life will become. Take a stress-load off your shoulders, and find some good quality rest.

5. Now, anger is a choice. Once you have calmed the anger completely, it would be your choice to get angry, or banish it completely. Once your anger is gone, talk to the person you were mad at, and complete the solution.


I hope this has helped to understand why dealing with anger is important. Keep your relationships alive, and banish the anger.