One topic in the Christian world/regular world today is anger, and how it can affect relationships. The physical effects of anger can be astonishing. However, the mental effects are even worse.
Anger is a natural feeling for a person when their emotions get past stress point. In other words, their emotions take control of their mind, because of a negative event that has occurred.
Being mad at someone, or at something is a sign of anger. You may have increased heartbeat, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline/noradrenaline.
Anger has two perspectives. One is active/direct, and the other is passive/indirect.
Difference? Active anger is when someone may see the external qualities of the anger you possess. Passive anger is when no one can tell you are angry about something. Some may erroneously call passive anger, aloof. However, aloof is more about successfully dealing with a situation, without expressing emotion.
Reminds me back to the song, So Long Self by MercyMe.
Anyway, the focus here is, is that being angry is a sign that you need to vent. But, how to do it in a safe way is the challenge. So, here are a few tips, to help you sort those issues.
1. Do not talk to anyone in the state of active anger. Doing so, will cause the anger to speak for you, which is not a good thing. Wait until the anger is passive, then talk to someone about it.
2. When anger is under control, it is considered passive. So, talk to someone else about the situation, if you are mad at a certain someone. Talking to the person you are mad at, even while passive anger is apparent, may re-boil the anger in to an active state. Always have a friend who can be on call at any time, to be able to vent.
3. Get in control of the situation and come up with a solution as soon as possible. No need to let yourself fall off the brink of a chasm. Wake up and find a solution.
4. Get more rest. The more rest you get, the easier life will become. Take a stress-load off your shoulders, and find some good quality rest.
5. Now, anger is a choice. Once you have calmed the anger completely, it would be your choice to get angry, or banish it completely. Once your anger is gone, talk to the person you were mad at, and complete the solution.
I hope this has helped to understand why dealing with anger is important. Keep your relationships alive, and banish the anger.
Sunday, May 30, 2010
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Relationship
My approach to somehow bring sinners to understanding, as they are confused whom our God really is, and why He wants a relationship with each of us.
Relationships are all about commitment, trust, communication, and interdependent unity. When one of those traits falls off, all of them are disrupted. For example, if a man and a woman are in a relationship, but one of them does not communicate properly; the couple loses trust for each other, is not completely unified, and the commitment is not solid.
Same is with our relationship with God. Let's say, for example, you need help from God. With thorough communication to God, you have the chance to express everything that is concerning yourself. However, if you do not trust God to help you, and trust that he is doing something already, then you lack faith. Shall I repeat a common verse with Christian preachers? "Now faith is the SUBSTANCE of things hoped for, the EVIDENCE of things not seen" (Hebrews 11:1 KJV). 'Faith is the substance of things hoped for', is what you have expressed the need for which you have prayed. 'The evidence of things not seen', is trusting in God that he might do as you prayed, and that he has the ability to do so.
What we are required to understand, is that the intervention of God in our lives must be a top priority. Some of us, including myself, have trouble keeping the same topic on your mind all the time. It takes a discipline to still think of God, while your busy daily life continues. Thanks to God, however, Jesus helped create the ultimate path and the significant expression of love, when he died and resurrected for us. Jesus helps us acquire the appropriate forgiveness, to help us get to heaven. What does forgiveness require? Forgiveness requires repentance, which is first admitting your sin, and asking for the forgiveness.
Some might say "forgive me father for the sins I have done," but not "I have sinned in 'this way' and I need to be forgiven." Admitting your sin helps you to realize what is plaguing your mind, body, and soul. Forgiveness is making sure that your path is staying correct, even though you have slipped and fell. We are God's children, and when we slip and fall, the Lord wants to know what happened. We tell the Lord, and we ask for forgiveness, in hopes to let God know we do not want to take that path again.
Being a child, not so long ago, I had done it myself, but encountered children who would be so guilty of something bad, that they would run to their parents and spill it completely. For example: "I pulled the hose away from the faucet outside and now water is running and I don't know how to turn it off, I am sorry." You see the child first admitted his doing, then said sorry in hoped the parent would not punish the child.
Our relationship with God is most important. But, the Lord expresses not to let this relationship be a secret, but to cause others to gain a relationship with Him as well. We are to "share the love of Christ."
I consider this, what is the point of living if I am living for myself? Let's not put God on the shelf. Our life is as important as our relationship with God, and when we decide we are not going to share it, we are taking it for ourselves and leaving others out. We are to preach the Gospel of Jesus Christ, in that it may save other people as it has saved you.
The Bible reveals keys about why spreading the Word of God is important:
1. John 3:33: "He that hath received his testimony hath set to his seal that God is true."
2. Phil 2:13-15: "For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of [his] good pleasure. Do all things without murmurings and disputings: That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world."
3. Mark 4:21-25: "And he said unto them, Is a candle brought to be put under a bushel, or under a bed? and not to be set on a candlestick? For there is nothing hid, which shall not be manifested; neither was any thing kept secret, but that it should come abroad. If any man have ears to hear, let him hear. And he said unto them, Take heed what ye hear: with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you: and unto you that hear shall more be given. For he that hath, to him shall be given: and he that hath not, from him shall be taken even that which he hath."
God's plans for the ones who will do their part in his kingdom are eternal life. Because of Jesus Christ paying the price of sin, we do not have to endure death caused by sin. However, repentance is very important to be able to acquire this wonderful gift.
Our lives are not perfect, and never will be perfect. All of us have flaws: physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, etc. Humans were never perfect, ever since Adam and Eve. They broke perfection, literally.
In fact, perfection scares me. Many rich people say their lives are perfect, because they have all the money they want/need. However, if you were to be friends with this person, rather than acquaintance, you would learn how unperfect this person is, and how potentially disturbed the person can be.
We are forever sealed with sin in this world, so Jesus broke the seal when he died on the cross then resurrected. The Lord attached a new seal to the world, that the already corrupted world could repent and seek forgiveness in the Father, that they might gain eternal life.
My Sensei is Jesus Christ. Not this world. Who is a Sensei? Someone who is truly passionate at seeing one grow physically, spiritually, mentally, etc. through the process of intense training.
My reward is eternal life, not a new Bentley. Why do I want a Bentley, when a normal car will get me to the place I need to go? We are too worried about our image, our space on the Internet, and our adventure in the world.
However, seeking worldly things is frowned upon. Seek the Kingdom of God, be saved, then go out to the world and start helping others get saved.
Your path to Heaven is narrow, so you are not allowed to stretch it. Figure out how to get there without stretching the path, or falling behind. What you say, do, are going to do, and the way your life looks in the future is dependent on your relationship with God.
I hope you would like to be a well-adjusted Christian, who worships his Sensei always, and ignores the world. My Sensei is Jesus Christ, and I am ready for His training. Are you? Get ready, and may the Lord return soon. Bless you!
Relationships are all about commitment, trust, communication, and interdependent unity. When one of those traits falls off, all of them are disrupted. For example, if a man and a woman are in a relationship, but one of them does not communicate properly; the couple loses trust for each other, is not completely unified, and the commitment is not solid.
Same is with our relationship with God. Let's say, for example, you need help from God. With thorough communication to God, you have the chance to express everything that is concerning yourself. However, if you do not trust God to help you, and trust that he is doing something already, then you lack faith. Shall I repeat a common verse with Christian preachers? "Now faith is the SUBSTANCE of things hoped for, the EVIDENCE of things not seen" (Hebrews 11:1 KJV). 'Faith is the substance of things hoped for', is what you have expressed the need for which you have prayed. 'The evidence of things not seen', is trusting in God that he might do as you prayed, and that he has the ability to do so.
What we are required to understand, is that the intervention of God in our lives must be a top priority. Some of us, including myself, have trouble keeping the same topic on your mind all the time. It takes a discipline to still think of God, while your busy daily life continues. Thanks to God, however, Jesus helped create the ultimate path and the significant expression of love, when he died and resurrected for us. Jesus helps us acquire the appropriate forgiveness, to help us get to heaven. What does forgiveness require? Forgiveness requires repentance, which is first admitting your sin, and asking for the forgiveness.
Some might say "forgive me father for the sins I have done," but not "I have sinned in 'this way' and I need to be forgiven." Admitting your sin helps you to realize what is plaguing your mind, body, and soul. Forgiveness is making sure that your path is staying correct, even though you have slipped and fell. We are God's children, and when we slip and fall, the Lord wants to know what happened. We tell the Lord, and we ask for forgiveness, in hopes to let God know we do not want to take that path again.
Being a child, not so long ago, I had done it myself, but encountered children who would be so guilty of something bad, that they would run to their parents and spill it completely. For example: "I pulled the hose away from the faucet outside and now water is running and I don't know how to turn it off, I am sorry." You see the child first admitted his doing, then said sorry in hoped the parent would not punish the child.
Our relationship with God is most important. But, the Lord expresses not to let this relationship be a secret, but to cause others to gain a relationship with Him as well. We are to "share the love of Christ."
I consider this, what is the point of living if I am living for myself? Let's not put God on the shelf. Our life is as important as our relationship with God, and when we decide we are not going to share it, we are taking it for ourselves and leaving others out. We are to preach the Gospel of Jesus Christ, in that it may save other people as it has saved you.
The Bible reveals keys about why spreading the Word of God is important:
1. John 3:33: "He that hath received his testimony hath set to his seal that God is true."
2. Phil 2:13-15: "For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of [his] good pleasure. Do all things without murmurings and disputings: That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world."
3. Mark 4:21-25: "And he said unto them, Is a candle brought to be put under a bushel, or under a bed? and not to be set on a candlestick? For there is nothing hid, which shall not be manifested; neither was any thing kept secret, but that it should come abroad. If any man have ears to hear, let him hear. And he said unto them, Take heed what ye hear: with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you: and unto you that hear shall more be given. For he that hath, to him shall be given: and he that hath not, from him shall be taken even that which he hath."
God's plans for the ones who will do their part in his kingdom are eternal life. Because of Jesus Christ paying the price of sin, we do not have to endure death caused by sin. However, repentance is very important to be able to acquire this wonderful gift.
Our lives are not perfect, and never will be perfect. All of us have flaws: physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, etc. Humans were never perfect, ever since Adam and Eve. They broke perfection, literally.
In fact, perfection scares me. Many rich people say their lives are perfect, because they have all the money they want/need. However, if you were to be friends with this person, rather than acquaintance, you would learn how unperfect this person is, and how potentially disturbed the person can be.
We are forever sealed with sin in this world, so Jesus broke the seal when he died on the cross then resurrected. The Lord attached a new seal to the world, that the already corrupted world could repent and seek forgiveness in the Father, that they might gain eternal life.
My Sensei is Jesus Christ. Not this world. Who is a Sensei? Someone who is truly passionate at seeing one grow physically, spiritually, mentally, etc. through the process of intense training.
My reward is eternal life, not a new Bentley. Why do I want a Bentley, when a normal car will get me to the place I need to go? We are too worried about our image, our space on the Internet, and our adventure in the world.
However, seeking worldly things is frowned upon. Seek the Kingdom of God, be saved, then go out to the world and start helping others get saved.
Your path to Heaven is narrow, so you are not allowed to stretch it. Figure out how to get there without stretching the path, or falling behind. What you say, do, are going to do, and the way your life looks in the future is dependent on your relationship with God.
I hope you would like to be a well-adjusted Christian, who worships his Sensei always, and ignores the world. My Sensei is Jesus Christ, and I am ready for His training. Are you? Get ready, and may the Lord return soon. Bless you!
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